Impossible... unless you really like the guy.
Don't respond to his texts or calls.
Duh, basic procedure.
You could tell him the truth - honestly, simply and kindly - but the guy is gonna hate you for hurting his ego, and you never know what these crazies in LA will do with that emotion.
A few times I've tried the whole "Sorry I've been so distant... I am going through a really hard time right now". That didn't work, obviously. Too vague. His reply "I'm so sorry. I totally understand.... Why don't you come over and we can watch a funny movie."
OK so then I tried a more specific route (with a different guy). "I think you're a really great guy, but I have to be honest with you. I have stronger feelings for someone else and I think it would be unfair to you if we continue seeing each other." Not the complete honest truth and not taking a huge blow at his ego... but that just pisses the guy off, and you never know about crazies in LA, so...
So sometimes you have to do or say extreme things.
Unwanted house guest example: Be openly mean and feign a huge drug problem.... The mean and distant thing didn't work. The drug/alcohol problem took a week longer than expected, but finally worked.
Blind date from dating website: Just wasn't into the guy, so I canceled my account, sent an apologetic email days after not replying to texts saying I received some sobering news.... that I found out I was pregnant and going to be off the grid for a while trying to figure it all out. OBVIOUSLY that would work, RIGHT? NO! A few weeks later, he emailed to check up. Asked if I was ready to get back into the conversation game. So then I said I wasn't in the mood. Trying to figure out what to do and Who the Father is... that it could be anyone. He still writes back! Asking if I have any leads! I stopped replying after that. Thinking how I would really feel in this situation (method acting), I decided I would be too busy and upset to deal with a one-time blind date. But my goodness, what a lot of work!
A guy I danced with (for kicks) Facebook IM'ed me asking if i remember him. I said my night was all a haze and that I was blackout drunk and that I think my friends tried to give me an intervention a few times. He said after a minute or two, "So wait, do you really have a drinking problem? Because that is pretty cool." WTF
A one-date guy I went out with 5 years ago found me on Facebook. To my favor, my Facebook location had St. Gaultier, France listed (just for kicks). This guy, who I found to be rather creepy, believed I was really in St. Gaultier (one of his favorite places!). He asked what I was doing en France? EASY OUT - I said I was taking some time off here in France for mental healthy recovery. He writes back, "well what a great place to be... let me know when you get back to LA!" OMG!
So being crazy or pregnant or having a drug/ alcohol problem doesn't seem to bother guys in LA.
I guess honesty IS the only way to get rid of them. Unless you really like him... then they'll just naturally disappear.
